When I ask clients how they would describe a confident person, they generally say an extrovert, highly gregarious and quite loud, rather than quietly confident.
However, confidence isn’t about being bold or brash or the centre of attention. True confidence is quieter and comes from an internal belief in your abilities, skills and value.
From working with confident people and supporting hundreds of clients to build their confidence I realised there are some signs that a woman whose quietly confident will demonstrate.
Here are my 8 signs that you’re quietly confident:
A willingness to share their opinion and to be wrong. A quietly confident person will speak up for what they believe is right but they’re also prepared to accept that sometimes they get it wrong.
An avoidance of comparing themselves to others. Quietly confident people have accepted their strengths and weaknesses and know they’re okay. So they don’t feel the need for comparisons to boost their self-esteem
An acceptance of mistakes. Taking responsibility for mistakes and admitting them to others is a sign of someone who is comfortable with their self-worth. As a result, they are kind and nurturing in the way they talk to and about themselves
An ability to speak up for their wants and needs. As they value themselves and their opinions the quietly confident person is comfortable to ask for their wants or needs. Even if they don’t get them
An openness to taking risks. Without knowing if they are 100% able to achieve a goal, a quietly confident person is willing to take a risk, because they are confident in the knowledge that whatever the outcome is they can cope.
A belief in their self-worth. This allows a quietly confident person to give themselves praise and positive feedback and as a result to need less validation from others.
An acceptance of their vulnerabilities. Having accepted their weaknesses a quietly confident person is happy to ask for help when appropriate, without feeling embarrassed
An ability to actively listen. This means focusing on the other person with a mind clear of distractions so that they feel understood. Quietly confident people will listen more than they speak and so have great relationships
How do you develop these signs?
This person does sound perfect and I wouldn’t like you to use the 8 signs as a way to give yourself a hard time.
Instead, think of them as a wishlist you’re working towards. Having a growth mindset means you know you’re always learning and that’s exactly how to apply these ideas.
I suggest you choose one and think about how you could develop towards it one step at a time
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