Self -acceptance is about trying to stop changing yourself into the person you would like to be or think you ‘should’ be, so that you can actually find out who you really are.
Do you accept yourself as you really are, even though you may not like everything about yourself? Or are you constantly comparing yourself to an ideal and falling short? Try rating your level of self-acceptance from 0 to 10, where 10 is full self-acceptance. Is that score a surprise?
In my next few blogs I am going to give you tips and ideas on how to increase your self-acceptance level and then you can see if there is a difference in your score.
Step 1, Know Yourself
This means more than just your job, your experiences, your successes or failures but actually who you are and what you want to be remembered for.
What qualities have you shown throughout your life so far and what qualities have people told you that you demonstrate?
What are the values that you hold strongly and that upset you when they aren’t met? Such as loyally, empathy, honesty, freedom or respect.
What are the things that you want to achieve in your life or that you have that are most important to you?
What are the parts of your personality that you find hardest to accept?
Reflect on these questions and if you are finding it difficult to answer them, imagine yourself in a job interview or writing a biography and think about how you would describe yourself.
Use your answers to get a clearer knowledge of exactly who you are.