As a Confidence Coach I’m often asked what is self-esteem and how is it different from confidence?
Confidence is defined as a feeling of trust in your abilities, qualities and judgement
Whereas self-esteem relates to your self-worth and how you value yourself in the world.
Someone with low self-esteem would have an overall negative belief about themselves. They’d tend to focus on their weaker points and blame themselves for any difficulties or mistakes.
If your self-esteem is higher, you generally believe you’re okay and recognise your strengths. When there are tough times in your life you can cope with them without feeling a victim or taking all the responsibility.
If you’re not sure where you are on the self-esteem scale then look at these types of behaviours and decide which describe you the most, or perhaps you demonstrate both types of behaviour?
High self-esteem behaviours:
Have a balanced view of your positives and negatives
Take care of yourself physically and emotionally
Willing to trust others
Willing to take risks
Compassionate to yourself
Learn from your mistakes
Open-minded to others
Trusting yourself and your intuition
Take responsibility for your actions and not always blaming others
Low self-esteem behaviours:
Focused on your perceived negatives
Self-blame and criticism
Fear of taking risks
Avoid taking responsibility for actions
Fear of confrontation
Oversensitive to others comments
Comparing yourself to others
Needing to be right
Dependant on others for decisions
Your self-esteem can fluctuate with your current experiences in life and most of us are somewhere around the middle of the scale . To work on building a healthier self-esteem I suggest starting by getting a clear picture of your positives and strengths as well as your flaws.